Producer or Consumer

This title may have a few of you really baffled. Good! I need you to give some serious thought to what I am going to pen down.

Today I talk about the equation in relationships. Yes , this my all time favorite subject😊

We all are in some forms of relationship - personal or business. And what is our status in that relationship? Are we happy with it or the way it is progressing? Does it satisfy our wants and needs?

In response I would ask you to think along these lines...

Are you the one investing in it emotionally, spiritually, financially?

Are you the one who is compromising, sacrificing, trying desperately to keep things together by giving in to demands and needs and wants of your partner?

Are you the one taking responsibility for the well being and success of the relationship?

Are you making time or being there when called on, irrespective of whether it is convenient for you?

If you have answered 'yes' to many of these questions, then you are the 'Producer' in this relationship.

You have donned this hat because you have invested your all in your partner. You have made that partner, the reason for your existence.

As is the case with a movie producer or a producer of things, a manufacturer. They give up everything for something they feel strongly about. However, should things go downhill, the total brunt of loss is on the hapless producer.

Also, you may be with a partner who enjoys the benefits you provide and that leaves you hungry and thirsting for real affection, care and a fulfilling relationship.

On the other hand

Are you the one who wants things at any cost? Mostly at minimum effort on your part?

Are you the one who believes that your presence in someone's life should be enough?

Are you the one who only provides attention to your partner when there is a need?

Are you the one who does not take responsibility for anything but would rather indulge in self pity to shirk responsibility?

Are you the one who feels you are 'always right'?

Then I believe you have the 'Consumer' or 'Customer' mentality.

You believe that everything should be as per your convenience and your wishes. Your happiness is paramount. You play the victim card very easily. You believe you can never be wrong and anything you do is always right and good.

My intention here is not to point fingers but to help you understand how you can work on building bridges in your personal and business relationships rather than burning bridges. We all need to be content and happy with ourselves and having the same with others makes life truly blessed.

Any relationship thrives on the 'barter' system. There is always give and take. Not only materialistically but emotionally as well.

Keep those bridges well maintained.

Bih@g

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