Life’s Real Game of Chidiya Udd !!!

“The only thing that makes life possible is permanent, intolerable uncertainty; not knowing what comes next.”, Ursula K. Le Guin

Chidiya udd game

I remember growing up with all kinds of games, but one of my absolute favourites was Chidiya Udd.

For those unfamiliar, it’s a game where one person asks questions, and you respond with an action or gesture. You might answer “Yes” by doing a little dance or “No” by shaking your head.

As kids, we didn’t really care much about the rules, we were fascinated by how each question could lead to a completely different answer.

Will I live in a grand bungalow ?

Will I be the next Bollywood superstar ?

Will I ace that cricket match ?

We were obsessed with what might happen and how things would unfold, especially when someone had already decided the rules of the game.

But guess what? Life doesn’t quite work like that.

Life’s Real Chidiya Udd: A Game You Can’t Control

As we grow older, we swap those childhood games for a different kind of planning, serious, life-altering plans. The “I've-got-everything-figured-out” kind. Whether it’s graduation, marriage, career paths, or even vacation plans, we lay out every detail meticulously. We make timelines, create vision boards, and align everything like clockwork.

The idea of control becomes comforting. If we can plan, we think we can control how things go, right?

But here’s the catch: no matter how many plans you make, life will show up with a curveball.

Maybe your wedding wasn’t the dream event you imagined years ago. Maybe your first job didn’t turn out to be all that exciting. Maybe you moved into a house you never even considered, and it’s nothing like what you expected.

And you know what? That’s okay. Sab theek hai. (Everything is okay.)

Life Has Its Own Plan, And It's Better Than Ours

Here’s something I’ve learned: It’s not the details that matter.

We can plan till the cows come home, but life likes to keep us on our toes. Just like in Chidiya Udd, where the answer changes with every move, life too surprises us. And most of the time, those surprises are far more interesting than any carefully planned detail.

Consider my wedding as an example. The dress I chose wasn’t something you’d have seen on Pinterest a few years back, even. But guess what? It turned out well. I didn’t need every detail to be flawless to realize that life was still great.

In India, we are all too familiar with the idea of planning. Be it a wedding with a thousand relatives or a career that begins with engineering and ends with a multinational promotion, the pressure to have everything mapped out is everywhere.

From nosy relatives asking, “Beta, kab shaadi kar rahe ho?” to friends asking when you’ll get that dream job.

But guess what? You don’t need to have the perfect answer.

Here’s the truth: as much as we desire certainty and control, life has a beautiful way of teaching us that not knowing everything is actually liberating.

Just like Chidiya Udd, where the answers come unexpectedly, life reveals its own twists and turns. Sometimes, the best surprises are the ones we never saw coming.

Trust the Journey, Not the Details

I still make plans. I still keep my to-do lists. But I’ve learned that life unfolds as it’s meant to. And honestly, the uncertainty, that's what makes it interesting.

It’s the unscripted moments, the unpredictable twists, that make life truly rich and meaningful.

So, when people ask about “the plan,” remember, you don’t need all the details.

Instead, focus on how you want to feel.

Do you want to feel fulfilled ? Peaceful? Happy?

Do you want to create memories that last, not just follow a set of instructions?

Life’s Ultimate Lesson: Let Go and Let Flow

So, I don’t know where I’ll be in five years. I don’t know what my house will look like, or if I’ll have finally figured out how to make perfect pulao like my wife. I don’t know if I’ll get that promotion, or if I’ll ever stop procrastinating on my fitness goals.

But here’s what I do know: I’ll be okay. No matter what happens.

Maybe it’s time we all stop obsessing over the details and start trusting the journey more.

Life doesn’t follow a script, and that’s okay.

All we need to do is take the next step, trusting that it will lead us somewhere meaningful.

So here’s my challenge to the universe: Surprise me. I’ll be okay no matter what.

---- Bih@g (All © Reserved)